Hey guys, hope you had a great weekend!
Ok let's come back to the story again, hope you guys don't feel bored with the long winded story.
Well, i was mentioning on the stress that I had gone through but I strongly believed that time will heal. Indeed, you guys out there, just trust me. Don't try to do stupid things like hurting yourself or commit suicide, do you think it is worth to do it for someone who don't love you anymore? If you die, she may be guilty for a while and then? Life still goes on, she'll soon forget that you died for her. And you? That's the end of you, people will forget about you soon.
Time heals, i can assure you that!! In fact, I did better in life now without her, maybe she's a jinx lol. I have my own middle range car, I can afford a BMW but hey I just need it for transport, no need to be luxury. Why pay more for the maintainance + fuel? I have my own 5-room flat (i'm 35yo already) fully renovated. I'm doing well in my career, a middle management in a bank. Except for the house which I bought it alone with an outstanding loan of 90K paying through CPF, I have a positive asset value. I owe this all to her, if she didn't leave me, I wouldn't have strive so hard to reach a higher goal in life. I wouldn't have more time to enhance my knowledge and going for further studies. All thanks to her haha.
Ok, let's rewind back a bit. After much negotiation, we agreed to go on a separation. She mentioned to me that if I agree to a separation, there is still a chance for us to be together again. She wanted me to pay for the separation deed and I did so. I sometime wonder whether is it because of money that she marries me. Anyway, did I mentioned that she initiated the marriage? Yes she did and she initiated the separation too....puzzles me.
So, we arranged with the lawyer and proceed down to get our separation deed signed. When we were there, we sitted right opposite each other. I overheard her saying that she will be going over to someone's house after signing the papers and she'll do the cooking today. The way she giggles and speaks, it sounded like she's talking to a love one. I guess that's her boyfriend (3rd party) who I believed had caused our marriage to fail. I was thinking to myself, am I really not worth for her to cook for me at all cos she had never ever cook anything for me...not even intsant noodles but now she's cooking for someone.
At one point of time, her eyes were very red, she told me that it was due to infection caused by her contact lenses. When our names are called, we went into the room, the laywer kept looking at her, he probably thought that she's crying. You know what happened next? He asked her if she wanted a higher alimony from me, mind you, he's my lawyer. You can imagine how I feel at that point of time.
It doesn't just stop here, after three years, she asked if I wanted to go for a divorce. I agreed to the request, anyway, I had already lost all my feeling for her and I just wanted to totally break off the bond and carry on my new life. Guess what? Actually no need to guess, you guys should know....she found a lawyer but she ask me to pay. She must be thinking that I'm an idiot. Well, don't you think this is logical? I accidentally found her blog, I knew at that time that she was getting married. I told her that I'm in no hurry to divorce and if she's in the hurry, she can go ahead and pay for it not me. Anyway, I consulted her lawyer, the lawyer mentioned that even if I pay, she will still be the petitioner and I'm the respondent. WTF, I pay for a lawyer to act against me?
She did not let the matter rest, she called me in the middle of the night threatening me that she will increase the alimony and all other stuff. I'm almost sleepless with her nuisance calls. I decided to give in but on one condition. I told her that if I'm to pay for the lawyer fee, she must not get any alimony from me. She agreed almost instantly probably she knows that she won't be able to get anymore alimony from me if she's going to remarry.
It is a great relief after years of torture and finally, breaking free from all the stress and leading a new life afresh.
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This is why I find it hard to have true feelings for someone anymore.
ReplyDeleteMan, this is an unbelievable story of true Love and devotion on behalf of one party and shameless selfishness and inconsideration on the part of another. It's OVER man and IF you're doing as well as you say, there's a reason for it (your goodness to her in time of adversity and the fact that you DIDN'T lower yourself to her level). We have a saying in America, "The trouble with assholes is that they always manage to drag you down to their level. Well you didn't sink my friend, so hold your head high in that respect. Karma is a bitch and what goes around, comes around, trust me in that. She may seem to be riding the Big wave in right now, but her day WILL come. When it does, she'll crash and burn much worse than you could have ever made her at the time when she held the higher ground.
ReplyDeleteSo FIDO (fuck it and drive on) my friend. Bury the bad memories DEEP and come out swinging HARDER than before. Life is a constant battle and that bitch was ONLY round one. The best form of vengeance is living well. Build yourself a kingdom and find a Queen that treats her man like a King. And should you ever happen upon that woman who tried so hard to tear you down to the ground, DON'T even look in her direction, pull your Queen in tight to your side and KNOW that you beat her, fair and square...
Man, this is an unbelievable story of true Love and devotion on behalf of one party and shameless selfishness and inconsideration on the part of another. It's OVER man and IF you're doing as well as you say, there's a reason for it (your goodness to her in time of adversity and the fact that you DIDN'T lower yourself to her level). We have a saying in America, "The trouble with assholes is that they always manage to drag you down to their level. Well you didn't sink my friend, so hold your head high in that respect. Karma is a bitch and what goes around, comes around, trust me in that. She may seem to be riding the Big wave in right now, but her day WILL come. When it does, she'll crash and burn much worse than you could have ever made her at the time when she held the higher ground.
ReplyDeleteSo FIDO (fuck it and drive on) my friend. Bury the bad memories DEEP and come out swinging HARDER than before. Life is a constant battle and that bitch was ONLY round one. The best form of vengeance is living well. Build yourself a kingdom and find a Queen that treats her man like a King. And should you ever happen upon that woman who tried so hard to tear you down to the ground, DON'T even look in her direction, pull your Queen in tight to your side and KNOW that you beat her, fair and square...
Man, this is an unbelievable story of true Love and devotion on behalf of one party and shameless selfishness and inconsideration on the part of another. It's OVER man and IF you're doing as well as you say, there's a reason for it (your goodness to her in time of adversity and the fact that you DIDN'T lower yourself to her level). We have a saying in America, "The trouble with assholes is that they always manage to drag you down to their level. Well you didn't sink my friend, so hold your head high in that respect. Karma is a bitch and what goes around, comes around, trust me in that. She may seem to be riding the Big wave in right now, but her day WILL come. When it does, she'll crash and burn much worse than you could have ever made her at the time when she held the higher ground.
ReplyDeleteSo FIDO (fuck it and drive on) my friend. Bury the bad memories DEEP and come out swinging HARDER than before. Life is a constant battle and that bitch was ONLY round one. The best form of vengeance is living well. Build yourself a kingdom and find a Queen that treats her man like a King. And should you ever happen upon that woman who tried so hard to tear you down to the ground, DON'T even look in her direction, pull your Queen in tight to your side and KNOW that you beat her, fair and square...